Your meaning must be unequivocal: no doubts or demurs; and such expressions of gratitude and concern for the pain you are inflicting as propriety requires, will present themselves unbidden to your mind, I am persuaded.
你的意思必须明确无误:没有怀疑或异议;
相信,这种对你所造成的痛苦的感激和关心的表达,是出于礼仪的要求,会不经意地出现在你的脑海
。